FionaFiona Boutika Forum Mod
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(9/18/02 2:50 pm) Reply
Advice please all you gurus out there!
Argh, sticky situation!
Ok, I have two friends, Jenny and Lise. Jenny went out with a guy called Robert, and was (still is) crazy about him. However, her parents weren't too keen on her dating at "only" 17 (!). She's so lovely she decided to end it to keep the peace. She told him she still really liked him, and made sure he knew exactly how hard it was for her having to stop seeing him as more than a friend. He said he understood, and was really mature about it. Anyway, that was a few months ago.
Recently Lise was introduced to Rob. They really hit it off, and to cut a long story short are basically in love! I found out today that Rob has asked Lise out, and she's accepted. Only yesterday Jen told me how much she misses Rob, and how much she still likes him. Lise knows exactly how much Jen still likes Rob, and I can't understand how she could accept him without a thought of one of her best friend's feelings. I asked her what she thought about how Jen would react, and she said that Jen needed to understand that Rob couldn't wait around for her forever. I see her point, but I am really upset about how she has acted.
To top it all off, Jen doesn't know yet. Lise is planning on telling her tommorrow, but in the meantime I don't know what to say to Jen. I am so worried about how she will feel - she is the sweetest and most selfless person I know, and she doesn't deserve this along with all of her numerous other problems. I feel a bit stuck between the two of them Should I confront Lise about the way she's acted, and how I think she should have been more careful with Jen's feelings when she knew exactly how much Rob still means to her? Or should I just leave it? I want to keep the peace, and both my friends, but I feel that Lise has really over-stepped the line here. I'm worried that they'll fall out and I'll be torn between the two of them. It sounds like a silly chick-flick scenario, but I am really bamboozled! My best friend Phee is as confused as I am, and Will ran a mile as soon as he got a whiff of the claws!
Sorry about the waffling! Any advice would be great, I know the guru girlies will help
Lots of love, Fi
lulu Boutika Forum Mod
Posts: 419
(9/19/02 1:00 pm) Reply
Re: Advice please all you gurus out there!
Oh Fi, that's such an awful situation to be in, especially as I don't know what to do because I know Jenny and Lise and I feel awful for Jenny because she really is soo selfless and soooo sweet and I can't believe Lise would do something like that to her and I thought they were best friends as well! I really wish I was at your school so that I could talk to them both as well and we could make peace reign forever and ever but my parents won't let me come so I shall have to leave it until 6th form wont I and by then who knows which one could be dead!
Lu
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FionaFiona Boutika Forum Mod
Posts: 489
(9/19/02 1:25 pm) Reply
Re: Advice please all you gurus out there!
hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha. I have decided to kill all three of them. Easy solution
sabinky Boutika Site Owner
Posts: 3220
(9/20/02 12:34 am) Reply
Re: Advice please all you gurus out there!
I was actually in the exact same situation about 15 years ago (wow, am I that old?). Anyway, You should tell your friend if you intend on keeping the friendship. If the other girl mentions to her that you knew, Jen will be very upset. I did not tell my friend and she hated me for years
FionaFiona Boutika Forum Mod
Posts: 494
(9/22/02 6:55 am) Reply
:)
Thanks Binkie. It turned out ok in the end as Lise told Jen pretty pronto. Jen seems a bit upset about it, but at least we are still happily friendly
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